Become a better u

This post is dedicated to a very special person in my life. I love her to death, but I'm really starting to believe that she doesn't see her own beauty. Yes, some say beauty is only skin deep but I believe it starts within and shows throughout. We have to learn every part of us is beautiful from our hair to the soles of our feet. Lately, she's been trying to convince me(and obviously herself) that her issues aren't as deep as I'm making them seem. Let me give you a little background on her.

She decided one day probably over a year ago that she wanted to get over the creamy crack addiction. She saw how successful my hair journey is coming and also how damaging relaxers can be on our hair. She mainly used protective styles during her first period of transitioning.

After many talks with me and also my friend she finally BC'd because she realized the relaxed ends weren't helping her at all. Then the heavy door of reality hit her in the face. Her natural hair wasn't what she hoped it to be. Her complaint is that she doesn't see her curl pattern and her hair is short. I've tried to explain to her that she has to get over it...yea I'm guilty of tough love.

I've push her toward natural sites and videos but it doesn't look like she's making any progress. Mentally, this woman is still in transition. It's been over two months and she has never worn her hair out around her church family and friends. She's been hiding it with a wig. This is a woman who never wore a wig in her life until she stopped getting relaxers. She hasn't played with her hair much but has toyed with twist-outs and braid-outs. In her opinion they are not "cute." Her husband is pretty cool until we get to the subject of hair. He is not supportive of it at all and she's is letting him believe that his lack of support isn't a big deal. HELLO ugh this woman is lying to herself. It's obvious that her feelings are hurt despite if she wishes to admit it or not.

I do understand that natural may not be for everyone but u can't convince me that this journey is not a life changer. It has made me blossom in soo many ways and I'm truly a different person now. I have become more patient, loving, understanding just to name a few. Help me help her.

Catch up

I haven't been posting about my personal life very much, but I'm really thinking about it. I won't ever go in too much detail, but blabbing and venting through blogging is a great great stress reliever. At the moment, I'm not stressed like crazy so I'm grateful about that. This is the second week of school and I've managed to turn all of my work in on time so far...yes!

I have a praise report lol. One of the ladies I mentioned on Monday did her BC!!! Yea !! It was the lovely lady Ponytail.


She is still getting used to it, but I know she'll be fine. I'll see her this wknd when I go home to celebrate Tania's bday. There is a African Fest going on and I can't wait to go. :)

Tips for Newbies(Recent BCers)

Basically, I was writing a friend from school and the facebook note started to get kinda long. She was transitioning for I think around a year. Her finally transition style was a sewin. When she took hair down...it wasn't what she expected. Boy do I know the feeling.

I know that during the end of my transition I bought alot of products and still have not used them. I don't advise it. I wish now that I would have figured out my hair type and read product reviews for girls like me. Here are some things and some tips to ponder on.

Think about health of your hair. What does it look like right now? Feel free to ask questions. There are so many naturals all around that will be willing to listen and give your feedback.


~*1*~ Did you BC(Big Chop) and immediately after get your hair braided or twisted up? If so, you haven't really seen and learned your new natural hair.

Congrats to the ladies who get major growth from weave protective styles cuz child they just don't work for me.

If you have had your braids in for 2+ months or close you might what to take them out to see if your hair is growing in the way you anticipated.

~*2*~Don't become a product junkie just because your curious. I know it's hard but in the long run your bound to have wasted money on stuff u didn't need in the first place. *Look at product reviews first*

~*3*~ Treat your hair like a delicate piece of lace..it's old and should be handled with care
*When washing or cowashing your hair it's important to remember your goal is not to have your hands all in your head with a head full of suds. Keep your shampoo use and a minimum...your hair doesn't need to be squeaky clean like a dirty shirt.
*Try to only detangle(With a wide tooth comb or denman brush) your hair when its wet with a moisturizer or conditioner. Comb from the ends up and the smallest sections as possible. You will get less tangles that way. Try to finger comb instead when possible.

~*4*~ Try to keep manipulation to bare minimum you will reap the benefits later.

~*5*~ Your hair is not the same as anyone else's. Embrace it...love it...don't wish it was different.

Again...please ask if you wanna know something and can't find the answer. We're in this thing together. Happy Holidays and be blessed.