Thinking...Natural

Commenter said: u make me wanna go natural...I just don't like dealing with hair at all...n my hair is way 2 thick to not be relaxed...so idk, maybe I'll try after the summer

I say: There are so many things I can say to that. First, one of the most important things a person needs to have with natural hair is patience(or a lot of money if you want someone to do it for you all the time lol). So if u don't like dealing with hair and don't want to, being natural is really really hard. Second, when was the last time u've dealt with your natural hair? I don't mean that stage that ur hair is in right before ur go get another relaxer when the new growth is showing its face...or what ur hair was like as a child before ur first relaxer...or even what ur hair is like with a relaxer...basically u can't truly know what ur natural hair is like until after u have ur BC. Relaxers(or texturizers or texlaxs) can sometimes make the hair even harder to manage. Also, our hair changes over time, for example, my hair is NOTHING like it was when I was a child. No hair is too thick to be natural y do u think that?

Like many things in life u have to reach a breaking point where ur mind is made up. For me, it was a time that my relaxed hair was cool and no big hassle. The one thing that constantly bothered me was my hair seemed like it had been the same darn length for years. Spending money on relaxers every 9 weeks for what...I felt like I was paying money for my hair to look exactly the same as before...I was making no progress.

I adored natural styles on other ppl and one key thing was I didn't wish my hair was like theirs. Instead, I wanted to know what my hair would be like natural. Actually, seeing their hair made be think about how different my hair would be from theirs. I didn't care what texture I was going to have I was ready for anything. A friend of mine decided to stop relaxing and I jumped on the boat. I had no idea what I was doing but I researched my butt off and learned. No one from home was natural so I had no motivation up there...actually they motivated me to not be just like them haha. The natural girl I knew at school wore mostly semi-straight styles...it was cute but I didn't want to deal with putting heat on my hair all the time. My best friend's hair from my first school was awesome to me! She told me stories of how it took her 5 or so hours to achieve her styles, but oddly that didn't deter me. Her hair was very thick and coarse and beautiful.

My main point is try not to have preconceived ideas about what ur hair would be like. U have to be accepting to what the creator already decided. Have u already set and reached ur hair goal? Even if u decide to stay relaxed make sure ur taking care of ur hair. Happy Hair Growing.

Catch up

I haven't been posting about my personal life very much, but I'm really thinking about it. I won't ever go in too much detail, but blabbing and venting through blogging is a great great stress reliever. At the moment, I'm not stressed like crazy so I'm grateful about that. This is the second week of school and I've managed to turn all of my work in on time so far...yes!

I have a praise report lol. One of the ladies I mentioned on Monday did her BC!!! Yea !! It was the lovely lady Ponytail.


She is still getting used to it, but I know she'll be fine. I'll see her this wknd when I go home to celebrate Tania's bday. There is a African Fest going on and I can't wait to go. :)

Do you see what I see?

I'm writing this post out of concern for two ladies in my life. I don't want to put them on blast so I won't mention how I know them. Both of these women have extremely damaged hair. Damaged to the point where they prolly need to cut their hair down to about 2 inches of hair.

Situation 1: One of these ladies is transitioning. I'll call her Nu Hair becuz she has faithfully been rocking a wig during her transition lol. Anyways, this wknd I walked in her house and her hair was all over her head. Immediately, I saw that she had extreme extreme breakage that started from her hairline and reached about 3 inches back. The rest of her hair looks very sparse and seems like she's been loosing hair on a daily basis. She has been transitioning for about 7 months so she has about 2 inches of unrelaxed hair. I was really alarmed and asked what happened to her hair. I think it is a mixture of reasons. 1) Like many women, she does not take care of her hair. 2) Stress is a huge factor in her life at the moment. I asked her what was she going to do with her hair. She told me that she wants to get it flat ironed for her wedding anniversary. WHAT!!! Ur kidding me, right?

Situation 2: The second lady is about 21 years old and has hated getting her ends clipped all of her life. I will call her ponytail becuz she wears her hair in a ponytail about 97% of the time. I have been on her back about her hair, but she refused to get her ends clipped. Also, this girl is famous for going with an relaxer for at least 4 months at a time. See some women can do this..that is if they take care of their hair. She lacks knowledge about hair to the point that she didn't know that after your hair is "healthy" there is still a need to clip/dust your ends. So, I also saw this woman's hair this wknd. The middle of her hair is completely missing hair...like Nu Hair only her unrelaxed hair remains. She is considering waiting another year before thinking about relaxing(thumbs up). She asked me at least five times "how much of my hair will I need to get cut off" The thought in my mind was "Um hello, ur missing hair sweetie. U prolly will need to let all go."

Come one ladies. Can't you see that ur hair is trying to tell you something. I was talking to Tania and she made a comment that when some women look at their hair they must not really see what's there. IA 110%. It's like their too busy imagining what they want their hair to look like they can't open their eyes to see what's in the mirror.

I really feel for these ladies. Both of their partners are not supportive of the fact that they need to rock a twa or braids for a few months. One even commented "a lot of ladies can rock short hair but not my lady" How rude. These women have no support and are terrified of cutting their hair. And we all know that their are countless women out there with the same problem.

It feels so good

I hope you had the opportunity to feel the great pleasure in ur heart when u've heard that you've encouraged someone. This doesn't pertain only to natural hair but all things we experience in life. As I was told when I was younger "someone is always watching u" and its so true. Unfortunately, ppl also are watching us when we're doing things negatively as well, but thats another story.

Recently, I got a DM(direct message) on Twitter from a college friend of mine. She stressed how much she want to get rid of her perm. Over this past year plus some, I can't remember the last time she had worn her on hair out. She didn't wasn't addicted to LF or anything so I knew something deeper was going on. She had a mishap last summer when taking out the tracks from her last hair style. A chunk of hair was stuck to the track and would not come out. She was rocking her wig to hid the damage I believe. Anyways, to make a long story short. Tuesday night she sent me a pic. She BC'd yall!! I'm so happy for her. She told me that its becuz of me that she first started thinking about going natural. I'm estatic.

Also, my mom and sister are still transitioning. I'm going to continue holding their hands all the way through. Its such a great feeling.