Become a better u

This post is dedicated to a very special person in my life. I love her to death, but I'm really starting to believe that she doesn't see her own beauty. Yes, some say beauty is only skin deep but I believe it starts within and shows throughout. We have to learn every part of us is beautiful from our hair to the soles of our feet. Lately, she's been trying to convince me(and obviously herself) that her issues aren't as deep as I'm making them seem. Let me give you a little background on her.

She decided one day probably over a year ago that she wanted to get over the creamy crack addiction. She saw how successful my hair journey is coming and also how damaging relaxers can be on our hair. She mainly used protective styles during her first period of transitioning.

After many talks with me and also my friend she finally BC'd because she realized the relaxed ends weren't helping her at all. Then the heavy door of reality hit her in the face. Her natural hair wasn't what she hoped it to be. Her complaint is that she doesn't see her curl pattern and her hair is short. I've tried to explain to her that she has to get over it...yea I'm guilty of tough love.

I've push her toward natural sites and videos but it doesn't look like she's making any progress. Mentally, this woman is still in transition. It's been over two months and she has never worn her hair out around her church family and friends. She's been hiding it with a wig. This is a woman who never wore a wig in her life until she stopped getting relaxers. She hasn't played with her hair much but has toyed with twist-outs and braid-outs. In her opinion they are not "cute." Her husband is pretty cool until we get to the subject of hair. He is not supportive of it at all and she's is letting him believe that his lack of support isn't a big deal. HELLO ugh this woman is lying to herself. It's obvious that her feelings are hurt despite if she wishes to admit it or not.

I do understand that natural may not be for everyone but u can't convince me that this journey is not a life changer. It has made me blossom in soo many ways and I'm truly a different person now. I have become more patient, loving, understanding just to name a few. Help me help her.

It gets old fast

Ever since I was very small I could never keep my focus on anything very long. To make it plain, everything usually gets old pretty fast. I would get something new and after a few days or maybe a week if someone even asked me where I had it last I couldn't tell u. I'm 23 now and I still have this issue. This could even be the reason y I keep "forgetting" to write blog posts lol. Anyways, it gets extremely bad with hair styles. I can keep a style for three weeks max. Its pretty sad. I try to stretch but by the third week I'm telling myself that it needs to come out. I always seem to pick the worse times to take my hair styles down too. I decided I wanted to take my crochet braids down last night at about 11pm even tho I knew I would be too tired to wash it and that I had to be at work today at 8. So now I'm sitting here with a dirty head of hair a day before Thanksgiving. Plus, I plan to drive up north my mom's house tonight. Ugh.

Getting ready for the sales?

I know I’ve personally looked forward to Black Friday every year for many years. It's so much fun watching all the hustle and bustle. I usually go to my sister's after visiting(and eating) at everyone and everybody homes we could fit in on Thanksgiving Day. But last year our fun came to a halt. Unfortunately, it was a cold night and my sister had my small nephew and my brother in law was on his way to work. We decided it wouldn't be a good choice to head out in the madness of Black Friday at 5am. We all know it can be very dangerous. We need a way keep up with the sales we want without the hassle of hitting the streets. This new shopping comparison site let's you do just that. Wow...technology is great! You can search for product deals for anything you want and see what hot deals are available. Wanna know what your friends and family want for Christmas...done. You can link up FB account with FreshDeals and see find out what products they've been checking out from the site. Keep up with the lastest sales and buy what you need at the same time. Happy shopping.

Happy Sunday

Hi guys,

I had my mind made up that I was going to make it to church this morning...FAIL. I stayed up to after 4am talking to my close friend and didn't wake up until after 11 this morning.

Lately, I have been extremely stressed with my financial issues. I'm prayin that I will make it through this trial very soon. I'm truly tryin my best.

I don't kno about u but I'm always drawin a blank when it comes to my next style. I kno it will be a protective style...I usually always style true to that. But other than Idk. Two weeks ago I randomly decided I would install yarn braids. I was inspired by yet another one of Black Onyx's tutorials style videos...check them out



I bought the products and started one braid....then I got lazy and didn't go through with it. I ended up doin my usual front braid back two strand twist style and I didn't like it one bit for some reason. I ended up retwisting the front a week ago. I did I twist out last night and I'm ready to wash it out already. So I'm definitely washing my hair tonight, but I don't know what I'm doin to my hair. Ugh its so frustrating. Well guys gotta go figure out what I'm doing to it.

A Budget Just For Me

As many of you know I'm a broke college student. Some ppl ask me "girl y do u have to work so much?" And my answer is always "I have to pay bills." I don't know about yall but I'm sooo tired always being broke. Some suggest that I make a budget..in my mind I tell myself there's no use becuz I barely buy anything for myself and everything else goes to bills. This is very true for the most part I only buy clothes when I absolutely need them(this usually involves a marked down pieced clothing never name brand), I don't eat out very much, I do my own hair(& make most of my own products). I have to admit there are other spending that I'm having a hard time cutting down on like my boyfriend.

I'm starting to see I could save a tank of gas every week by not driving to see him. I could stop getting Netflix since that 14.97 wasted most of the time since movies tend to lay on the table for wks at a time without being watched. The few Starbucks drinks I buy could be cut out(about <2 a mth). But is that really enough? I honestly don't think so which makes me stress out even more. I don't do anything(clubs, malls, movies nada). I barely go and I do mean barely. I fl like I'm going to go crazy if I cut anything else out. That trip to my boyfriend's makes my week and I look forward to it frm the moment I'm kissing him goodbye. I've convinced myself 4 my pocket and my old car's sake I will only visit him every other week. Maybe this is a start maybe it isn't.

Also, I was watching "Singletary Says" on the TV One channel this morning when I woke up and although I thought the show was corny she made some really good pts. She suggested putting a pc of ur check in savings every paycheck no matter how small it is. This is prolly commmon sense to most of u but as I was growing up I was never taught how to save. If I make sure I always put that money aside and try hard not to touch it will truly make a difference. So I started today. Wish me the best.

Help the fashionless!

I have always been a very girly female. Most often I like to admire the fashionistas all around me, but I've never been able to catch on myself. I can easily use the excuse that I've never really had the chance to becuz my mother dresses horribly and I've never had alot of spending money to buy the hottest designer fits. I know that tons of ladies visit thift stores and find the cutest funkiest things at low prices....but I live in Lameville, Indiana lol. Anyways, money is still my number one excuse and I know its getting old. I have confidence and I want my clothes to reflect it. I want style I love style...its so hott. Any ideas?

One day at a time

My engine light finally went off Monday morning as I was leaving my honey's house(yea I know I prolly shouldn't be driving on the highway with my headache of a car). I helped a student Monday night when I could have been studying myself. Hopefully my kindness will pay off. I hopped in my car so I wouldn't be late for my second job and the fuel light pops on. I'm paranoid as all get out even tho normal cars last a good 20 mi after the light comes on mine doesn't. I drive all the way to work and stop at the closest gas station near my job and reach for my purse....hmm not there. I managed to drive all the way back to school to look for my purse...not there. Then all the way back to my house....yea found my purse. Drove down the street to the gas station and put in a meesly $10 praying it would last to pay day. Made it to work 30 min late.

As some as you know I had two schedule internship interviews this week. I had no clue how to wear my hair and I have no time to put in the style I want. I rocked a slick back pony that didn't slick back lol and a suit(so called sz 6) that belongs to my sissy(I'll remind you I now wear a nine...I didn't think that plan thru obviously). The interview#1 went well and I hope to hear good things from the company.

My engine light came back on yesterday. My body is starting to get worn out and I have no time to relax. I have a speech that I haven't prepared to give tomorrow and interview#2. I went on campus to study yesterday after work(10:30ish pm) even tho I was so tired. I attempted to work on one of my labs, but I was completely lost. Made it home about 2 and fixed my lunch for today.

Woke up this morning to my puppy running around the room playing loudly....I think she was up all night. Made time to eat cereal, yogurt, water and vitamins. I admit I feel more energized than usual. Even took some pics My prof just pushed back my exam next week since I have no clue what's going on. My group has a lab due tomorrow and I only have access to one building with computers with the proper software...the computers are used to about 5 for classes and the lab closes at 11 ugh.
Geez its only Wednesday!!