Friday, October 1, 2010

Baby and/or Marriage?

I guess I missed the memo about the NMNW Campaign last week, but I'm happy I found out today. I know it is already causing drama, but its time for a change ppl. I was having a conversation with my boyfriend last night about our future. He seemed to be having a hard time picturing himself in a marriage with children, so when I read one of the articles on the NMNW website these words caught my eye

"No black woman should ever feel that she might not ever get married because of statistics"

"It is inexcusable that college-aged black women and black women in their 20s are already preparing to be alone and planning for single motherhood. It is heartbreaking for a 25-year-old to talk about how she’s investigating adoption or sperm donation so that she can make a decision about parenthood if she’s still single by 30."

Well this is exactly how I feel(minus the sperm donation part), but how can I get over it when our men can make it so hard. I'm turning 25 in February and I'm ready to start thinking about my next move. I won't get too deep on my personal life, but somehow our generation got left behind. My eyes almost came out my head when I read that 72% of black children are born out of wedlock...wowwww are u kidding me? Is this something we can change? How can we really start educating the ones that need the message? Others will disagree that there is anything wrong with it at all and if you have good reason keep believing it. But believe me this is not an issue that I will ignore.

A Few Updates

I have been using my black soap for about a month now and I really like it. I'm noticing that my face seems a lot more smooth and healthy. I'm still working on finding a natural way to help this small discolorations on my skin. So far I think that the olive oil has helped a little, but I haven't been doing it every night like I would like. I retwisted my hair last weekend in mini two strand twist with a twist lol. I added about .5-1 inch small cornrows in the front to make my plain style a little more appealing and I plan to leave my hair in twist for 3-4 weeks.

I have been applying to companies like crazy praying that I will find a college grad gig wayyy before graduation so I will have one less thing to worry about. I started to get discouraged, but I just had a great interview with my #1 company!!!! Hopefully, I will hear back from them soon for a on-site interview in TX.

My friend just had a baby girl Tuesday night, and I've been by her side every chance I get. I'm exhausted, but their definitely worth it.